Every one of us is responsible for our own lives. That means we are accountable for our growth and development. Adults are not children, so we need to give them the space to grow and develop themselves personally. We can offer suggestions and provide a listening ear and a huge hug when they need it, but in the final analysis, that person has the final say on their life and where it’s going. We must respect adults for the mature, capable adults they are supposed to be and not micro-manage their lives. That does not make for a good boss, nor does it make for a healthy relationship with others.
Instead of controlling others or trying to control ourselves, we need to manage our individual lives. That means you should not hold up your personal growth and progress by waiting on others to make a decision that may or may not affect your life. You may be waiting on others to want a better life for themselves, and because you are growing and moving forward, you do not want to leave them behind. However, if someone doesn’t like something for themselves, there is no way you can force them to enjoy it.
I will even go as far as to say that what you may want for someone may not be what they want for themselves, or they are not ready yet to make changes in and for their life. You mustn’t stop your growth for anyone. While it is commendable to enjoy more for others, you cannot keep your life waiting for others. Therefore, you must keep your life moving forward while focusing on your development.
Another point is that people can and will string you along for as long as they can before you even realize what is happening. They will give you a sad story to draw you in, or they will say the right words that they know will pull at your heartstrings, and you find yourself understanding them and waiting on them. You are now at their mercy. They can hurt you and twist you up in any way till Sunday. Do not blame yourself once you realize or become aware of what is happening. Forgive yourself for getting caught up in the madness, and now start to take steps to get your life going again, preferably without those individuals.
Once you become aware of what is happening, you will no longer allow your life to remain stuck. People can make promises all they want. However, it is in the doing that you should put faith in, especially in your personal life. Do not tolerate nor allow anyone to run amuck in your personal life and leave it in disarray. If your personal life is in chaos due to who and what was in it, then it’s time to do some internal house cleaning.
It is now time to take back your life, take back control over the ship of your life, start playing your life full out and start living the best life for you. Do not make the mistake of stopping your life because you feel that you should wait on others. No, keep moving your life forward, and if others want to be a part of your life, they will catch a ride on your ship. If they do not want to be a part of your life, keep your life moving.
You have the power to stop your life-ship if you so desire. However, do not allow others to slow you down. It is one thing to stop or pause voluntarily. It is another thing when you unwittingly allow criticisms and other negative behavior to seep into your mind and cause you to control your progress. You are now so beaten down that you barely can get up in the mornings.
ENOUGH! Your life is not meant to be mediocre, nor is it meant to be wasted being stuck in the same existence with no change. No, you are meant to live an EXTRAORDINARY life. So don’t be afraid that by you moving forward, you are leaving people behind. If they are for you, they will be beside you as you move forward. If they are not for you, you will meet other people as you move your life forward.
To be able to move your life forward, focusing on nourishing just your heart and soul is not enough. Your mind needs to be built up to become rock-solid. A weakened or vulnerable sense will leave you open to external influences. Then, the hostile and harsh criticisms of others will be able to permeate your mind and twist you up from the inside out. That is what is called psychological abuse.
Once someone controls your mind, you no longer own your life. They can twist you up in any way and in any direction that mirrors their state of mind. That is why we need to build up our senses so that nothing negative and mind-twisting can penetrate. Own your mind, have mastery over your mind, and you will be able to direct and lead your life toward your dreams, passions, and goals. Having a weakened sense doesn’t mean you are stupid or mentally unbalanced, far from it. Immense pain can undermine your mental state.
Experiencing severe life events and having to go alone can cause your mind to take a massive hit. Do not feel guilty if your mind is in a weakened state. You are human, and sometimes life will hit you hard to the point where life knocks you down clean off your axis. Use this time to rebuild your foundation. Life hit you hard for a reason. The life you were living, you have outgrown it, and the vitality needed to get your attention, to say, “Hey, you no longer belong over there. It is time to go down a different path.”
You are getting an opportunity few people get or even recognize that they are getting. You are being given a chance to start your life over from scratch. You can now build a life according to your specifications and not those of your family, religion, culture, media, or society. You can create a life that supports your energy needs in your inner and external lives. Both parts of your life must be aligned and give you balanced support.
That is why you should never look so longingly at what was or wasn’t that you miss the opportunity to appreciate what is coming into your life. If you need to take the time to heal wounds of the past, then do so. Your life requires you to be front and center in your present to look boldly to the future. Although your past may have had great times and beautiful experiences, there was also a lot of misery, pain, loss, and disappointments. Why would you want to return to something that caused you pain, discomfort, and torment? You can’t change what happened, but you can heal to create a new and better today. Remember, yesterday is gone, and tomorrow isn’t here yet, but you have today, and today should be where you live your best life.
Refrain from engaging in should-a, would-a, could-a. That is gone. Refrain from engaging in. Tomorrow it will be better; next year will be better; this is the life I want someday. It hasn’t come yet. However, today you can live your best life. Today, you can attempt to do something you are passionate about. Today, you can tell someone you love and care about them. Today is what you have. Embrace, rejoice,, and live it to the best of your ability.
As you take your new life one day at a time, bit by bit, you will start falling in love with yourself. Soon and very soon, you will be living your life fully and completely in love with the new you. It is that love that you have for yourself that will catapult you to live in your greatness and live the best life possible. There are no limits on how extraordinary you can live. Do not allow the past or future to continuously rob you of your joy. You no longer have to exist in life, trying to survive daily. Now you can thrive in your life, enjoying your passions day by day. It is your life, so live it up, freely,, and passionately.
